The magic of the Yab Yum Position

For those of you that don’t recognize the Yab Yum position name, I am pretty sure you recognize the posture. Its simply the man siting down, and woman sits on top of him (penis in vulva).

Aside from it being a very beautiful artful pose. It is also referred to in tantric texts and of importance.

For me, it never worked and I made peace with it. I am 5’8 and always felt my partner is either not large enough to hold me so that I sit on him and be at his eye level, or, even if had a giant partner, it never reached an intimacy level that led to this position in which the hands are free for mutual hugging.

But when it finally worked, I got it. I understood why it became a symbol. well. firstly. both man and woman are looking at each other and their crown is positioned towards the sky becoming an open channel to receive information, the hearts are against each other and the spin is straight from base to crown. but forget all the technicality, its an amazing to be held by a man, who aims to pleasure and lift you up. both are equally positioned towards the sky but he is below lifting up.

In tantra the gift of the yogi to the yogini (man to woman) is her orgasm and that helps her travel higher in the spiritual dimensions.

So imagine this, you are sitting on top of a man, his warm hard dick inside you, and both of you are free, arms are free to hug, touch, stare at each other and move the spine and pelvic as it wants. here I as a woman, I am free, I am a full participant in the act in terms of rhythm, intensity and direction. and again other tantric principles come into play as well. encouraging us as women to have a voice, to show what we want, and who we want.

For me, Its a posture that focuses less on performance and mind blowing orgasm but rather a bubble of warm magic that takes over my whole essence, I can feel the energy created between us, and sit in it, metaphorically and physically. there is no rush to go anywhere, we are both seated in each other and can be present.

Yab means father and Yum means mother in Tibetan.